Posted: October 14, 2014 at 8:00 am | Tags: Generation Y, Jobs, The economy
Culture Post –
For today’s post this blogger would like to draw you attention to a post from The Huffington Post called “Why Generation Y Yuppies are Unhappy.”
Normally this culture/tech/ politics person would not usually put out another website’s blog post for the topic of a blog, but it’s a pretty accurate post. It made three major points which are pretty important for Generation Y people. (Minus the comment about most Generation Y people wanting to be president or better. It’s hard to imagine most people wouldn’t be happy if they were really in the position to be president. And what this blogger means is that it takes quite a bit to be president now, you have to have gone to the right schools, have a good career behind you and have a strong network to do it. Then again, the article may be hitting on the point that many Generation Y people don’t always know how much it takes to do anything even halfway great. And then again, why be president when you could just live an amazing life? Eh?)
The post made some rather accurate points on why Generation Y is unhappy, mostly related to the fact that:
1.) Generation Y parents set high expectations in their minds because they came from a time of unprecedented prosperity.
2.) Generation Y is constantly exposed to the false reality the rest of their generation creates on Social Media. Everyone is pretending to be doing better than the reality of their life. This causes frustration and unreasonable bizarre jealousy. Sanity is found by listening to your peers’ woes in your generation and finding out how hard people have it.
3.) Generation Y deals with constant griping from their parents and family to achieve the same level of success that they achieved and maybe twice as fast. UGH.
4.) Generation Y is dealing with a time of change in the economy, there aren’t a ton of great jobs like their parents knew, but there are tons of other types of jobs at least now. Secure jobs are not as common while Generation Y is also trying to find jobs that fulfill them. Throw some crushing debt on from graduate school and you have one cranky Yuppie. (Yuppie is the term that the blog gives to Generation Y people who are ambitious.) Actually, it is worth noting that some of the trouble with finding work and being ok with it for Generation Y is that the rest of society isn’t entirely comfortable with what is available to them for work which compounds the problem. I.E. I went to a job interview once where the interviewer got weirded out because I had done retail in addition to my professional work. You can see how that’s a problem if the rest of society is confused about what’s happening in the world.
5.) And finally, to make it all worse a small percent of Generation Y has done really well despite the economy, they got “lucky” out of school in their 20’s and they have zero tolerance for their peers who are still waiting or working to make it their lives happen well into their late 30’s or maybe 40’s with the way the economy is going these days.
The last point might actually be the most meaningful after the reality that many Y’s parents have expectations that are too high considering the economy. And finally, this blogger has included an article on how successful people function through difficult times. Click Here.
Posted: October 13, 2014 at 8:10 am | Tags: DC, friendships, Washington
Culture post –
The Washington, DC area is a strange place for friendships. First off, people come and go here a lot, many people are transient. On top of that fact, the whole political scene makes it difficult for people to really be friends. The kind of people who are attracted here, the tendencies and the nature of it all just makes friendships tenuous. As Harry S. Truman put it “if you want a friend, get a dog” in reference to the town.
Some people really do want to be friends, and some are really out for something more as one friend said “in politics all friendships are really strategic alliances” and then of course there are those people who will smile in anyone’s face and stab them in the back upon the first chance if it is expedient. Many friendships are based on events or associations. Of course many colleagues can be a friend, but those relationships are based on work and as work changes those relationships can too.
But worse still, there seems to be this common weird phrase among some political people it’s the so and so thinks we are friends bit. This one never made sense, it’s as if people in town really think there is some great art to going up to another civilized person and acting civilized so as to get along, means they have really put one over on everyone. And if you could suppose that if someone was really nuts, the act of behaving themselves and pretending to have manners might seem like some sort of great ruse. It’s actually comical, only in DC would you encounter someone who is so backward they think the act of being “nice” and establishing a baseline of contact with someone means they have convinced them there is a friendship simply because the other person is nice in return. It’s laughable because I’ve actually seen politicos crow about this sort of exchange, it’s a real eye roller.
Last this blogger checked, the only way anyone knows who someone really is, is through time.
All of this really swirls over the reality that most people as adults never have the kind of friends we had as kids, especially women, women tend to have best friends as children and in college. But as an adult? That’s a question that is always having to be answered and there are tons of articles on how to make friends, what adult friendships are like and what kinds of friends to make.
From the NYT –
Friends Over 30
Our story is not unusual. In your 30s and 40s, plenty of new people enter your life, through work, children’s play dates and, of course, Facebook. But actual close friends — the kind you make in college, the kind you call in a crisis — those are in shorter supply.
From Jezebel –
Friends When You Are Old
Sometimes it is, make no mistake, but effortless friendship is rare at any age, and what you really had your whole life was a built-in conveyer belt group of people going through the same conveyer belt as you, and you all called that friendship, when really it was a conveyer belt.
Realize that the days of being stuck for an hour three times a week with the same ne’er-do-wells in “Intro to the Modern Novel” is never going to happen again with such a similarly positioned group of people. RIP, conveyer belt. The sooner you see that conveyer belt gathering dust in the recesses of your mind, the sooner you can get down to making friends. On your brand new adult, grown up, shiny-… swift-o-matic conveyer belt.
From Relevant -
Types of Friends
Yet the problem with defaulting to doppleganger friendships is that shared interests can only take a friendship so far. They can even stop short at companionships of convenience that mask a lack of true intimacy. For intimacy, in fact, has less to do with shared interests and more to do with shared vulnerability, and above all, a commitment to growth. The best friendships are birthed from a desire to engage at a deeper level … to challenge one another, to grow individually and collectively, and to be willing to learn from one another.
Of course none of these articles answer the question of how to deal with the foolish types that think they have put one over on everyone by behaving well for 5-10 minutes. Then again, those people are fools.
As for me, this blogger has been very lucky to have several real friends in this town over the years which is quite a lot compared to most people. They are and were literal prizes.
Posted: October 9, 2014 at 12:58 pm | Tags: gender issues, War on Women
Culture and Politics post –
If you’re plugged into the media, you’ve probably been following the low percolating issue underneath the news on ISIS, China having a better economy than the U.S., and Ebola , at this point – the now annoying sub topic of the “war on women.” It was a topic that benefited the Democrats in the last election which lead to long discussions of birth control when everyone should have been talking about the economy.
This blogger put together a list of points because the whole debate has just gotten too weird:
1.)Frankly, if you want to help women – jobs, strong markets and economic freedom are the best path. Free birth control? That just sounds like a perk for men when it comes out through the broad topic of Obamacare.
2.)But the discussion hasn’t ended there, this year drinking on college campuses and the bizarre hook up culture has lead to the longest and most annoying discussion of people who can’t communicate that this blogger has ever endured. It’s really simple people – no means “no” and yes means “yes.” There’s no in between and if anyone thinks there is then everyone should stop whatever they are doing and go home. Not to be too blunt but, it’s elementary. The media blitz on the topic of “rape culture” has just become weird.
3.)It’s true women don’t always get treated well in the workplace, some men really really hate women and they like to try and dominate/harass them. OR worse some men do like to attack women because there isn’t the same threat of a physical whooping that there is with a man. But other men really like women as people and prefer them to men, and some women really hate men. In other words, some people are not nice and they direct it at some specific groups of people. (By the way, if you sit out in public and make gross comments about other people, you should expect someone to get mad at you, face repercussions – that’s just life among the civilized.)
4.)This sort of gender war issue as whipped up by the media actually has some pretty decent men frightened that they will be accused of bad behavior and for some reason has done nothing to deter the truly nutty men who like harassing women. Why? Well, the fact of the matter is society tells men how to behave pretty clearly today in the U.S., so you know if a guy jumps that line he’s probably not right in the head. And companies have their own cultures, some will fire a man or woman at the hint of sexual harassment misconduct- gender discrimination, while another will let a predator harass employees or worse for years. Hello confusion.
5.)If society focused more on people treating each other properly, and less on gender issues – more like the basics of everyone learns in kindergarten (keep your hands to yourself, be polite, etc.) the entire list of topics covered above would be far less confusing in general.
6.)The blitz on these topics has to end, none of it is actually creating awareness but in fact has created a weird dialogue and dare this blogger say “a numbness” to real problems. For example: the weird articles claiming feminist hysteria is taking over the U.S. population and the addition of Hollywood starlets playing at feminism by making contradictory statements are just a few examples of how weird the dialogue has become.
Posted: October 8, 2014 at 8:42 am | Tags: Culture, Facebook, Pinterest, Technology, Twitter
Tech and Culture Post?
Earlier in the week this blogger was putting together an invitation for an even on Facebook, as she sifted through her “Friends” list she came across a profile for a person who had passed away in June. Yep, a friend in the prime of her life at the age of 31 just passed away from a stroke. It was sad, it was sudden and there was her profile still hanging out in cyberspace with the last profile picture that she had posted.
And it brought to mind the fact that society has not really come up with a “ceremony” or proper series of etiquette for retiring a loved one’s social media accounts. In some cases, no one can even find the dear deceased social media account holder’s passwords and log ins to close the accounts. Ugh.
But in the situation where family or friends have access, how long does one wait? Is it a group effort to discuss when to shut down accounts? Is it like cleaning out a loved one’s things from a dresser or room? Do you only do it when you feel you have finished grieving for them? The grieving process for some people can take years so that can be a very long time for a dead profile to be out in cyberspace.
It’s a new problem, social media only became big in the last ten years, in some cases it seems nice to leave a person’s profile up in the immediate months after their passing, but at some point, the profiles and accounts have to be closed. The idea that a profile or account could exist as a tombstone of sorts doesn’t really work. Life is for the living and social media is for the living to express as well interact using technology.
This post certainly isn’t the last article on the topic nor will it be the last as society figures out how to deal with this issue.
Posted: October 7, 2014 at 12:32 pm | Tags: debates, Ed Gillespie, U.S. Senate, VA U.S. Senate race debate, Virginia
You may or may not be familiar with Ed Gillespie, the man running against Senator Mark Warner. But tonight, the two men will debate at the Fairfax County Chamber of Commerce at 7:00 pm EST. Below is a list of tv channels and stations that will cover the debate.
Debates are always fun because they determine so much of the course of the race going forward. Additionally, the debates provide an opportunity for candidates to get exposure and make costly mistakes. This blogger has enjoyed some debates very much because it was so evident that a favored candidate was doing well and totally hated others because the implications were terrible.
Posted: October 3, 2014 at 3:36 pm | Tags: 7 Deadly Sins, Black Dog Day, Breast Cancer Awareness, Crispy M&M's, Ebola, Horseshoe, Ryan Phelps, Text Scam
It’s the Friday Fry up and it’s Ebola Friday here on my blog.
Ebola – So You Thought You’d Get Free Treatment
You’ve probably heard about the guy, Thomas Duncan, who flew through Dulles and into Dallas with Ebola. You may have even heard about the 80 people who were exposed to him. But did you know that he is in trouble and will be prosecuted for his lie to the Liberian government? Click Here.
Yeaaaaaaah, you cannot just come into the U.S. with Ebola, get treatment, cause havoc, possibly cause a pandemic or help in spreading it without paying a price. It’s criminal.
Also, a potential case has now been found in D.C. Click Here.
It’s getting weird with troops going to West Africa to deal with the Ebola..apparently doctors are being sent….but what are they going to do? Click Here.
Other Topics, because one can’t just write about Ebola.
If you examine this chart apparently 6 of the 7 deadly sins are all in abundance in DC. Except for gluttony.
Does anyone besides me think the new casino is getting an awful lot of publicity out of the Phelps arrest? Click Here.
You can click here to see a very witty response to a text scammer.
The Other Things
Breast cancer awareness month has started, Crispy M&M’s are coming back so you can eat those when you start to worry about Ebola. And this week many people celebrated black dog day.
I actually made a meme for my dog, who is black.
It wouldn’t be Ebola Friday without a fun song – “Fever” by Peggy Lee. Click Here. Actually there really is an upsetting Ebola song about awareness. Click Here. It’s hard not to laugh at that…but it’s a gross video.
Have a good week-end!
Posted: October 1, 2014 at 8:57 am | Tags: 2016, Blackburn, Bush, Carson, Christie, Cruz, Jindal, Paul, political candidates, Romney, The White House
Presently, the Republican party is trying to figure out who should be the main candidate in 2016 for the White House. And I’m gonna be honest, I HAVE NO IDEA who should actually run.
These are the people who might run or are running:
You could dissect them on personality or you could dissect them on their background, or by issue. The issues are probably what will matter most. It is too problematic that about three of these candidates have supporters who are sincerely dedicated to them and will cut at the other opponents, or worse their supporters – it’s like we learned nothing from the last two elections.
Posted: September 30, 2014 at 11:48 am | Tags: Camille Paglia, College Campuses, Predators, Stalking
If you haven’t noticed between the news on ISIS in the Middle East and the Democracy protests in Hong Kong, the news on the issue of date rape and campus life has gotten kind of weird. Somewhere in the process of colleges trying to keep the law enforcement out and to delineate the messy nature of people – colleges are starting to make some really odd choices. And you have to think a more important point about safety has been missed by miles.
Notably – the newest article from National Review on the University of Michigan’s desperate attempts to control the issue with the headline “Withholding Sex Now Considered Sexual Violence.” What? (You can read the article here.) Or you can check out the Reason article on Gov. Jerry Brown’s state, California, where the legislature has passed a bill:
California Gov. Jerry Brown affixed his signature to SB 967—the “Yes Means Yes” affirmative consent bill—which will require colleges to police their students’ sex lives.
You can read the article here. In fact there is an app now related to consent which apparently will help people find clarity?
IF you feel mildly squeamish or confused, that would be a correct feeling at this point. And then Camille Paglia put out an article called “The Modern Campus Cannot Comprehend Evil.” Yes!
It’s not often that this blogger would agree with someone that far to the left, but Camille Paglia has some good points which needed to be made and the article was circulated among conservatives on the web as solid advice. You can read the article here.
The article was about the disappearance of Hannah Graham in Virginia and the fact that so many women today do not understand the reality of life. The world has some really really nasty people in it and women have to be guarded to take care of themselves – to survive.
Too many young middle class women, raised far from the urban streets, seem to expect adult life to be an extension of their comfortable, overprotected homes. But the world remains a wilderness. The price of women’s modern freedoms is personal responsibility for vigilance and self-defense.
Current educational codes, tracking liberal-Left, are perpetuating illusions about sex and gender. The basic Leftist premise, descending from Marxism, is that all problems in human life stem from an unjust society and that corrections and fine-tunings of that social mechanism will eventually bring utopia. Progressives have unquestioned faith in the perfectibility of mankind.
To add to the problem, most people men or women do not want to inform or support young women in really being savvy about the world. Why? Not many people want to deal with the reality that the world is full of some really great people and some really evil ones. There are predators out there in the world, it’s not a woman’s fault if some yucky predator is after her, but women do unfortunately have to go through the horrid process of being aware, walking home at night for example, and getting help through alerting friends or colleagues if they think they are at risk. And any woman who has to deal with the social stigmas related to alerting other people when dealing with a predator deserves the utmost sympathy.
It’s not a pretty process, society isn’t keen on the reality that there is evil in the world.
Posted: September 27, 2014 at 8:52 am | Tags: Ghenghis Khan, political strategy
Politics Post –
This post is written out of respect for the commons.
“In politics to be respected, you must be feared.”
This is a common phrase that you have probably heard before, but you would be surprised at how people misinterpret it when trying to acquire or maintain power. This blogger can’t tell if it’s the idea that Ghenghis Khan once ruled much of the earth by force which inspires some people to actually think the best strategy is to act in a savage crazy manner. I’m talking about those people and you know who you are, that think the way to gain power and create fear in the political sphere is by actually throwing objects, having rage attacks, picking fights and beating up on women or even men too.
It would be nice to think this sort of behavior didn’t really happen very often, but there are a fair number that never make it to the higher levels who practice this sort of ridiculousness. To put a fine point on it – if you engage in any behaviors which involve violating another person’s being or threatening them by grabbing them, pushing or shoving – you are just waiting to go to jail. You’re not a politico or savvy or anything, you’re a law breaker someone who commits assault without thinking and don’t get ever get it confused.
And worse, there are those who think political power is slander, you know who you are too. You’re the guy who spreads nasty rumors, you make up ridiculous stories about anyone that threatens you and think, foolishly, that everything will come up roses for you. Moreover, no one respects someone who needs to have people constantly upset, there are tons of articles on this issue for management – workers come to hate anyone that is constantly in a bad mood and threatens them.
To have political power, you must be respected, to be respected you must behave in a respectful manner, then and only then can you provoke fear with your displeasure in the political world due to your merit.
By the way – You can be both loved and feared, you may not be just loved and you may only be feared – but you can have both. The best method is to be feared because you are loved so to speak.
Posted: September 26, 2014 at 8:23 am | Tags: Apple, Before and After, fines, forests, iPhone, Red Wine
The Friday Fry Up –
Eric Holder announced he will step down this week. It can’t be over the Republicans possibly taking the U.S. Senate in January since the odds on that are 50/50. All scandals are relatively removed from the present so it would appear he is just leaving out of exhaustion at this point. There is no particular meaning to him stepping down now as opposed to a few years ago, despite circumstances that make it questionable. In other words: who knows, anything is possible.
Apple is being trolled over their new iPhone apparently being bendable which means easily broken – not good in an expensive phone. The other major companies have seized the opportunity to tease the company. Click Here to read more on Mashable’s website.
To be honest, one would think the company would have made sure something like this was not possible before releasing the phone. Oh the days of Apple. Even non tech companies have jumped on the opportunity to make fun of the company’s woes.
One might think the Apple followers will turn on them for it, but the iPhone crowd seems to have a lot of money, this blogger thinks they won’t care. Now the Android crowd. We’re thrifty. LOL.
The U.S. Forest Service plans to start charging people $1,000 for taking pictures in national forests. Uh, yep that is unconstitutional and needs to end. Click Here.
Apparently Red wine is good for you, ok most people know the theories on Red wine, but really there is a new study now that says it may be better than going to the gym. I, for one, will still be working out. But actually, the benefit is more that it helps your heart. You still have to work out for all the other benefits. Click Here.
Before and After
This interesting series of photoshopped pictures shows how beauty is seen around the world in different countries. See Here.
Esther Honig sent her picture to people in 40 different people in 25 countries and asked them to photoshop it to their standard of beauty. The results are interesting and in many cases expected for example with the South American countries (consider Argentina) or Morocco where the designer put a head covering on her – but interestingly one of her contacts in the Phillipines put her in a suit. It is worth noting that the two people in the U.S. put were among those who made dramatic changes beyond just the face. Most designers added different colors to the face alone and only two people in different countries put clothes on her, although Bangladesh put a few feathers on her for modesty. LOL.